It’s been a little over two weeks now since I reemerged onto the social media scene after my one month hiatus. I received a lot of folks reaching out asking me if everything was okay… I’m not sure if I should be concerned about that reaction, if I’m being completely honest. Just to clarify for all you reading this out there, I was and am okay. Well, mostly.
I decided to take a break from social media partially to see if I was capable and because I wanted to take some time to focus on real life, you know, the stuff that’s actually right in front of me?
And so, I started off on my journey and I’ll be damned if it didn’t put some things in perspective:
- I found that I got back what felt like an extra three hours every day.
- I spent time reading. Specifically, I read Brené Brown’s “Daring Greatly” and “The Tao of Bill Murray” by Gavin Edwards. I can’t help but feel these two books couldn’t have come at a better time. I highly recommend both.
- I started paying attention; to my partner, to myself, to the people around me.
- I took pictures for me, not for anyone else. I took pictures that I knew I wouldn’t be sharing in stories or on pages. I took them because I wanted to, not because I felt like I had to.
- I played. I played games and engaged with family and friends. I made real connections and conversation with people.
- I found myself more focused and less distractible both at work and at home.
When my month was up, I actually struggled wanting to be back online. Truthfully, I still have yet to download the Facebook app back onto my phone. I’m working on taking many of the lessons I learned from this experience and trying to maintain them while still having an engaged online presence and it isn’t easy. I believe social media has its positive attributes. It allows for people to connect with one another, stay in touch with people at a distance, and share snippets of their lives. It also allows us to see how other people live and know that we’re not alone. While these are all wonderful things, I think it’s important for us to not lose sight of what’s in front of us. To be present and engaged with the people who are physically in our lives. To live real life and not measure our worth by the amount of followers we have on our pages or the amount of likes our last photo got.
In the words of Bill Murray,
“I just really only want to work when I want to work. Life is really hard, and it’s the only one you have. I mean, I like doing what I do, and I know I’m supposed to do it, but I don’t have anything to bring to it if I don’t live my life.”